Adoption: A Viable Option for Single Black Women
I think this is a wonderful option for African American Women who find themselves single and childless in their mid-30s and 40s. If you are financially and emotionally ready to give a black child a home do it; because they are the ones left to fend for themselves in foster care the most. But one thing did disturb me about the article and that is the fact that some women are choosing children based on their shading. Darker children are being passed up for Lighter or Mixed kids. If that is part of some dumbass woman’s criteria, then she is not emotionally ready to raise a child in my opinion; it’s just another form of Black on Black Racism.
Wendy Duren thought she did everything right.
Wendy Duren says she doesn’t get as much sleep but loves her adopted daughter, Madison.
She broke off relationships with men who didn’t want to settle down. She refused to get pregnant out of wedlock. She prayed for a child.
Duren’s yearning for motherhood was so palpable that her former fiancé once offered to father a child with her. But he warned her that he wasn’t ready for marriage.
“I get bored in relationships after a couple of years,” he told her, she recalls.
Those events could have caused some women to give up their dreams of motherhood. But Duren, a pharmaceutical saleswoman, didn’t need a man to be a mom. At 37 years old, she decided to adopt.
“It’s the best decision I could have made in my life,” Duren says, two years later. She’s now the mother of Madison, a 1-year-old daughter she raises in Canton, Michigan.
“People say I have never seen you so happy,” she says, “but it’s also the hardest thing I’ve ever done.”
What kind of crap is this:
Yet there are some single African-American women who are not emotionally ready to adopt an African-American child who is too dark, some adoption agency officials say.
Fair-skinned or biracial children stand a better chance of being adopted by single black women than darker-skinned children, some adoption officials say.
“They’ll say, ‘I want a baby to look like a Snickers bar, not dark chocolate,’ ” Caldwell, founder of Lifetime Adoption, says about some prospective parents.
“I had a family who turned a baby down because it was too dark,” she says. “They said the baby wouldn’t look good in family photographs.”
As always, be well
CF
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